This post addresses PMS, but men, don’t change the channel! Just as it’s important to know your woman’s body (assuming you’re in a heterosexual relationship) in order to please her, but understanding doesn’t stop at the bedroom door. Just as she would educate herself and support you if you had issues surrounding male sexual reproduction, be — not just a man, but THE man— her man and get to know who she is and what makes her human.
Do you know that feeling? You’re in a restaurant or walking down the street with your partner when he suddenly sees an attractive female and time stops. He seems to forget you’re standing there next to him. ou’re talking to him and you feel like you are practically non-existent for some period of time until he lands back on planet Earth, looks over at you with his eyes scared and full of guilt, wondering if you had caught his ocular indiscretion.
As a woman ages and her hormones change, her sex drive can taper off. Loss of libido is a common reason women seek my help as a sex coach. They think it’s just natural or there is something wrong with them, especially women who haven’t gone through “the change” yet.
I handed a tissue to my client, Eileen*. “I’m so afraid he’s going to cheat, but I don’t know what to do! It hurts when we have sex… I try to do it for him, but it just gets too painful,” she said through tears. Her partner, Ron*, turned and hugged her. That was the first time she felt comfortable enough to express that to him.
We all have fantasies — some of those involve our partner, people we meet every day, strangers — but not all fantasies, or sexual encounters, are between two people. Sex is playtime and many of us would like to play with two people in the same time!
Over the Christmas Holidays, I decided to travel to my second home, Germany and visit my friends and family. When I lived there, one of my weekly hobbies was visiting a German FKK Spa. (“The social nudity movement includes a large range of variants including “ naturism”, “nudism”, “Freikörperkultur (FKK)”, the “free beach movement” as well as generalized “public lands/public nudity” advocacy.” -Wikipedia).
One of the most common questions I get from men and women in my coaching sessions is about how to bring desire back to the bedroom when it has faded or how to extend the quality of sex life in a new, young relationship. It seems that we all dream about experiencing passionate desire with our loved one forever. When the intensity wanes or the newness is gone, we wish to feel that same sexual craving again.
Men struggle with intimacy. This isn’t just a cliché or stereotype; this is something I’ve noticed in my coaching and counseling sessions. Men typically have problems opening up and giving or receiving love and warmth. What are they worried about? Perhaps they think that by hiding their emotions, they will be seen as “man enough.”